ADVANCED MEN'S DEVELOPMENT · BORROWED WEIGHT

Some of what you carry was never yours.

This isn't a quiz. You'll write your own answers, in your own words, about the weight you took on from your parents, and what you handed away. Four steps. If your dad or mum wasn't around, answer for whoever filled that role. Give it fifteen honest minutes.

YOUR WEIGHT MAP

Here's the line, start to now.

ABOUT HOW MUCH YOU CARRY

BASED ON WHAT YOU WROTE

ONE MORE THING

After all that, where do you actually sit?

Not where you want to be. Where you actually are right now, when something doesn't go your way. Pick honestly.

4Free

Free from it. You carry your own life fully and let everyone else carry theirs.

3Releasing

You feel the old weight land and you hand it back in the moment. It still takes effort.

2Noticing

You see afterwards that your reaction was bigger than the moment. You can't put it down yet.

1Carrying

It feels like you. You don't question it. It's just how you are.

YOU JUST DID STEPS ONE THROUGH FOUR OF GIVE BACK, TAKE BACK.

Seeing what you carry and why you took it on is the map. It's not the fix. Actually giving it back, and taking back what you handed away, that's steps five and six, and it's not something a tool finishes alone.

See how it actually gets put down Map another one